I'm a Borderline Bitch: A Relationship Workbook

Borderline personality disorder is not a disease. It’s a state of being. You can be a broken borderliner, just like you can be broken without having borderline. You can be a fucking successful borderliner, just like you can be successful without borderline. Borderline is just different, and what is different is difficult. Borderliners may need some extra information and tools to handle it, but in the end, borderline has its pros and cons like any other characteristic you may have.

Out of 150 people, only one is officially diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. There are three times more women than men affected. Even though some borderliners can enjoy the attention of a therapist, most won’t trust or like therapy. In fact, the common borderliner wants to show how strong she/he is and DEFINITELY doesn’t want to show weakness by receiving therapy let alone trusting someone with their personal issues. For this reason, approximately 90% of borderliners stay undiagnosed.

Also, most people suffering from borderline personality disorder do not accept the label, borderliner. There’s a huge aspect of denial. In their eyes, the real world looks completely different: people are attacking them, life sucks, and they’re fighting. In reality, they’re the one misinterpreting.

This is a book I wrote for and thanks to my boyfriend, Dean. He could use a manual to handle me, but don’t worry. I won’t throw these words in your lap and ask to fix me. I want us to work together. I need your help, but I realize I will have to do most of the work myself.

I also want to write this for you, fellow borderline bitch or borderline bastard, because I know you. I know how you hate, and I know how you blame the people you love the most in this world. I know how you feel; I know your pain. I want to help you because you’ve been through enough, and it is time to finally know what it’s like to be truly happy.

And this book is for you, partner or friend or family or anyone who cares about a borderliner. You’ve been trying so hard to help us; it’s time we thank you and give you something back that will hopefully better explain our world. Always know that, no matter how borderline we are today, we still love you and are begging you to stay. I hope you can also figure out a way to get through the hard times that will never ever feel gray.