Leverage: How to change the people you love for all the right reasons and get the relationships you deserve

A fascinating, at times, confronting book concerned with the process of how to change the people you love and who love you back.

‘Don’t change the people you love’ may be the single worst piece of relationship advice ever given. It is actually important to be able to improve the quality of relationships to live a meaningful and successful life.

Leverage is for people who want closer, stronger and happier relationships. Its wisdom comes firstly out of the overflow of the author’s own experience improving the quality of his relationships, and then a lifetime of working with others to do the same.

The ability to change those you love comes from the combination of five things in this order: Security, Clarity, Integrity, Maturity and Authority. The author calls this the Leverage Model and each chapter in the book explores one of the five steps in the model.

The journey starts with the reader. The first and most important relationship is the quality of their relationship with themselves. Only when they have a deeply loving relationship with themselves will they be able to understand the nuance required to have a deeply loving relationship with another person.