Lance Mason - Fearless First Impressions

Let's face it… as a man, being afraid to walk up to an attractive woman and start a conversation is devastating and even humiliating. I should know, I've been one of those hide-in-the-corner guys all my life. My name is Andy, and until recently my story wasn't a happy one when it came to women. If I just think about it, I can remember way too many times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn't do it. I used to break out in a cold sweat just thinking about it. Pretty pathetic huh? Before I go on, see if this seems the least bit familiar to you

You see an attractive woman, a woman you know you'd LOVE to meet, BUT you get this feeling in the pit of your stomach that strongly persuades you to do 'something' else first. It becomes a voice in your head that says things like "go and get a drink first" or "wait until she's alone, then say hi", and so you do either do NOTHING, or you do ANYTHING ELSE, except talk to her. That feeling my friend, is called FEAR. I don't mean mild anxiety either, I'm talking gut wrenching fear with beads of sweat running down your forehead at the mere thought of talking to a woman. Sheer fricken panic attacks that take your breath away and leave you shaking like a junky in need of a fix. Look, I'm not going to go into all the psycho-babble behind why this happens. We both know it's real, it sucks, and I could have been the poster boy for approach anxiety anonymous. Fact is, if a woman would look at me and smile, and I'd panic and look away like I was twelve and just got caught looking at the native women in National Geographic at the dentist's office. But that's only half the story, because then the ultimate insult to my self esteem would happen. While I sat there, stuck to my seat like it had glue on it, shaking like California during an earthquake, some other average Joe confidently walks over, starts talking with her, and she ENJOYS it. After I would slink home with my tail between my legs, I would beat myself up for days afterwards for being such a lame-ass that I wouldn't even say "Hi" to her. Let me share a secret with you… not only was I that way most of my life and ALL my friends knew it too.